Le Monde 365

For the longest part of my life, I used to be obsessed with perfection. This affected how I did my work, how I related to my loved ones that is family, friends and workmates. I would most often than not get worked up or stressed out if things didn't go exactly as per the specified details. Perfectionism had gotten the best of me. Brene' Brown, in her book Daring Greatly argued that perfectionism doesn't exist because nothing can ever be perfect. It is more like what the writer of the book ecclesiastes refers to as chasing after the wind. Indeed attaining of perfection is chasing after the wind as it only leaves one drained and worn out. In my journey I discovered that claiming to be a perfectionist is a cover up for fear of failure. Fear of failure can rob one the opportunity of gaining experience which will result to growth. Fear of failure can tomment a person so bad that it can rob one the privilege of trying something new. I have learned to embrace failure the ha...

There are countless of quotes about happiness, from those stating that happiness is a choice to those concluding that one must find it.Ryuho Okawa argues that we cannot determine happiness as a result of something happening to us. Over the years,  l have come to learn that happiness is but a journey and not a destination.  Happiness is a journey towards self actualization, self assessment and self efficacy. It is a processes where one must travel internally and work on their belief and mindset.  To get to a destination, one must travel and during the trip one will experience a whole lot of different adventures of which constitutes the make up of the whole process of the journey. And so it is with happiness, along the way,one will experience the highest of highs and also the lowest of lows. Amazingly, it is all part of the journey. It is all part of the bigger picture which we cannot get nor understand until all the missing pieces are in place and the puzzle is solve...

Today morning as I was leaving the house for work, my daughter, who had stayed back home from school due to illness, chose to see me off.   Suddenly, we noticed that Sam her pet dog had sneaked out of the house and had ran out of the main gate to the next door neighbor’s house. We could hear him bark from within the compound which could only mean one thing; the neighbor’s gate was open. Every morning, at around six, Sam is let out of the house to go enjoy the fresh morning air before our gardener lets out the birds.   In this short period that Sam is released, his aim is not to enjoy the fresh air like we had purposed for him but to go to the next door neighbor’s gate and tease Mairo. Our neighbor has this gigantic, black and very ugly dog. It is a very scary dog that sits behind the closed gate. However, even though Mairo sits behind the closed gate whenever you pass by that gate you will not fail to experience cold shivers running down your spine. It is this same fi...

I will make it. I will go there. I will achieve this. I will do that. I will survive. I will live. These are some of, amongst the many phrases one can say to oneself with great confidence and   most often than not when one confesses to the fact that they WILL, it so happen that they actually do. Theron Dumont once said that you can be if you will to be, for will can find a way or make one. In other words to will to do something is a choice one makes from within. One would either allow the diviner self to control or let the brute within to take hold. (Theron T Dumont) When one learns to master the art of I WILL , they find out that life can be very simple and pleasant.   It is a journey that requires a lot of concentration in that man has to learn to connect with the mind, body and soul. In the bible, the book of Romans chapter 12 and verse 2 talks about us   not conforming to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then y...

Someone once said that real power is the ability to maintain intimacy. Real STRENGTH is the ability to maintain contact. Whereas games are an ego default when being “real” feels too scary. Human beings by default are social creatures who were created to feel and share affection. God created each one of us with a longing for intimacy. In the book of Genesis we see God visiting Adam and Eve every now and then for a closer relationship and even when this relationship went soar because of sin God still went ahead and  sent his only begotten son. He gave up His one and only son as sacrifice to renew the relationship because He values intimacy with man. According to open bible website, there over 61 verses about intimacy with God and each verse describes an intense affection for God. David who has been referenced as a man after God’s heart pours out his heart in the book of Psalm chapter 63 verse 1-11 without any reservations “ O God, you are my God; earnestly I seek you; my s...

Over the years, I have made some keen observations on behaviors that people display and it is interesting to note where some of the qualities displayed emanate from. I am the kind of person who would not judge a book by its cover. I, most often than not, take time to flip the script and assess the content displayed and thereafter give my verdict. I have come to realize that many people would like to exhibit the attitude of confidence even when it is not necessary. I think it is because that is what the surrounding demands of us.   While growing up, children are forced by their parents to act confident. Even the reserved and not outspoken child is forced to act in a certain manner as to convey confidence. I do believe that this has its pitfalls because a child who is an extrovert might be assumed to be more confident than an introverted child just because the extrovert is more outgoing and more outspoken. Cambridge English dictionary has defined cocky to mean a person who i...

I came across an article that stated that many of us based on our backgrounds have been raised to believe that blowing ones trumpet is a wrong thing. We have been conditioned to only one side of the coin and as a result, growing up we have been forced to wear this garment of humility that works to our disadvantage. We have been forced to believe that those who actually do blow their own trumpet are proud, bad or evil. Macmillan dictionary has defined blowing ones trumpet as “to emphasize your own achievements and successes to other people” I could define this in simple terms to mean self-promotion.   It is simply selling your own brand to the market out there. Is there anything wrong about that? Definitely not, because for the world to know what you have to offer they must hear it from you. Only you can promote yourself. Only you can make the world believe that you have something that could help them solve their problem. Only you have the power to sell you. I hav...